Hope: A Shift from Victimhood
“The question is no longer what they did to you—that, you cannot change—but what you are going
to do with it to fully align with your life’s purpose and soul’s longing and passion.”
“The question is no longer what they did to you—that, you cannot change—but what you are going
to do with it to fully align with your life’s purpose and soul’s longing and passion.”
In a world increasingly shaped by trauma discourse, therapeutic language, and intergenerational healing, one narrative has taken center stage in the public psyche: blame your parents. Blame everyone but yourself. From Facebook and TikTok rants to therapy couch confessions, the impulse to trace every disappointment, fear, or failure back to Mom and Dad has become nearly reflexive.
The roots of this mindset run deep—far deeper than social media trends. Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, famously emphasized childhood experiences and parental influence as the origin of neuroses. His Oedipus complex, theories of repression, and developmental stages embedded a belief system into Western psychology: if you dig deep enough into your wounds, you’ll find your parents there with a metaphorical shovel.
Indeed, Freud's theories continue to echo through the generations. A 2014 meta-analysis in The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry found that adverse parenting styles significantly increase adult anxiety and depression. According to the American Psychological Association, 76 percent of long-term therapy clients cite family issues as a core concern. Yet somewhere along our journey, a crucial truth has been sidelined: blame does not equal independence. Reflection is necessary. Understanding our past is powerful. But to stop there—to remain in the psychology of victimhood—is to give away the very fire we need to ignite our future.
The Comfort and Cost of Victimhood
Victimhood offers a seductive comfort. It says, “This isn’t your fault.” And for a time, that message brings relief to wounded souls. But as Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist, noted: when we can’t change a situation, we must change ourselves. A study in Personality and Individual Differences describes a “tendency for interpersonal victimhood”—a mindset in which anger and reactivity replace action, creating a psychological prison. When we focus too long on who hurt us, we forget what we're here to build.
Victimhood Goes Viral
And of course, it doesn’t stop at the personal level. We learn to see our world through those twisted victimhood lenses. This narrative now infects global communities, politics, racial conflicts—even national identities. A dangerous competition to show who has suffered most justifies revenge and stifles hope. The belief in a perpetual victim identity drags humanity downward—fueling unjustified wars, sustaining long-term conflict, and blinding us to the creative potential humanity holds for unity.
Therapy Culture and Dependency
Meanwhile, American therapy culture has exploded. Gallup reports that 23 percent of U.S. adults saw a mental health professional in 2022, up from just 13 percent in 2004. According to Columbia University data, the share of adults using psychotherapy alone rose from 11.5 percent in 2018 to 15.4 percent in 2021. Total mental health spending jumped from $31 billion to $51 billion in just a few years.
This booming growth has lifted stigma—but it often reinforces negative dependency. Many practices are built on weekly sessions that focus on blame, keeping people rooted in the unchangeable past. When therapy becomes a symptom rather than a solution, it replaces empowerment with passivity—and despair.
Your Soul Has a Map
There is another way—identify your life purpose, your unique mission. When a person begins to recognize and honor their reincarnated soul—a separate, coded consciousness energy that many ancient traditions believe enters through the crown of the head, known as the Vertex, into the developing fetus between the fourth and fifth month—everything changes.
That subtle energy spreads throughout the body, creating the intricate nervous system responsible for delivering messages back to the brain to support decision-making. Life no longer feels like a string of unintentional accidents or unfair suffering. It becomes a purposeful journey—a welcome teaching.
What once looked like trauma or misfortune is revealed as a navigational signal—a cosmic redirection toward growth, healing, and remembering who you truly are. It’s like a lighthouse that shines in the dark for a lost boat in a stormy ocean. Or a billiard game. You hit the cue ball, it bounces around the table—off others, missing, colliding—until, unexpectedly, it lands exactly where it was meant to go. The seeming chaos wasn’t failure. It was your soul’s guidance. Even the detours and delays carry sacred intelligence. The chaos isn’t punishment. It’s precision. And your soul already knows the way.
Transformation Is Possible
In my shamanic healing practice, I’ve witnessed transformations that border on the miraculous—addiction surrendered, depression released, anger transformed into forgiveness, sometimes in a single session.
“After one session, I feel like a subtle change has taken place, welcoming back a long-forgotten aspect of myself.”
“My reading was very powerful and caused a big shift on my path of life.”
“Wow, that was big… having a witness can allow for changes that surpass language and thought.”
“I was so happy to take part in your trauma workshop last week—it was revealing and liberating.”
“My first two sessions have changed my life—I’m now making huge breakthroughs and exploring the world anew.”
“I want to thank you for the session last week. It was insightful and helped me gain a new perspective, which has altered the way I experience my current situation as well as how I feel about the future.”
These aren’t isolated miracles. They are what happens when we shift from blame to meaning, from victimhood to vision.
The Sacred Anatomy of Fire
Igniting that inner fire isn’t a metaphor—it’s sacred. In Don Alberto Taxo’s Andean teachings, we Befriend the Elements—also within us. Legs are Earth. The pelvis is Fire. The belly is Water. The head is Air. Rooted in Pachamama, we draw strength. We raise molten energy into the pelvis to ignite Mushuk Nina—our sacred fire, our passion. That fire heats our emotions, producing steam—expression—through the neck, the crown, and into the fifth element: The Ushai, or God.
It is essential to note that this flipped order—from Air, the masculine element, down to Earth, the feminine—is not accidental. It is the result of the rise of the three monotheistic religions and their factions, all created by men. These systems placed a male figure, God, at the top of the pyramid, controlling all other essential human functions—community, food, and sex. The structure of life was inverted.
The indigenous worldview, on the other hand, is built on a pyramid whose base is Earth, whose power source is feminine, and whose reverence starts from the ground up. My hope is that we will remember to worship our mother first—Earth before Heaven, body before abstraction, roots before wings.
Unfortunately, our society runs upside-down. We try to start from the head—overthinking, repressing emotion, and bypassing the body. We shut down our senses and our fire and sever our connection to the Earth. And we wonder why so many people feel powerless, anxious, disconnected.
Hope Is a Rebellion
There is hope—faith in a positive outcome. Hope heals and motivates. Real hope is optimistic. Not passive optimism, but active creation. When one lights their fire, others remember they can too. Passion, purpose, creativity—they arise from rooted vision, not from dragging your feet in bitterness.
And because the energy of hope is contagious, healing becomes global. When you reclaim your fire, your healing ripples outward—to your family, your community, and the world. Choosing hope over blame is an act of collective medicine.
The question is no longer what they did to you—that you cannot change—but what you are going to do with it to fully align with your life’s purpose and soul’s longing and passion.
Hope is uprising. Your fire is waiting.
In Short:
– “Blame culture” and “victim psychology” are past-centered. They lead to disempowerment, depression, revenge, and violence.
– Talk therapy may reinforce co-dependency rather than foster self-empowerment.
– The soul’s journey offers a sacred map, bringing clarity and focus.
– Hope—future-centered—is a contagious force for personal and global healing and peace.
A Call to Action: Reignite Your Fire
If something stirred in you while reading this, don’t let it fade into the background of your busy mind. Act on it. Begin by asking yourself: What do I long for? What have I come here to create, serve, or heal?
Seek out teachers, mentors, and practices that help you remember who you are—not who you were told to be. Explore breathwork, bodywork, shamanic healing, or creative expression. Reconnect with nature, with ritual, with silence. Listen to your body. Let your emotions speak. Trust your inner fire.
And most importantly—surround yourself with those who nurture your hope, not your fear.
Because when you act from hope, you don’t just heal yourself. You become a lighthouse for others, guiding them back to their own purpose.
The uprising has already begun. Will you answer the call?
The roots of this mindset run deep—far deeper than social media trends. Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, famously emphasized childhood experiences and parental influence as the origin of neuroses. His Oedipus complex, theories of repression, and developmental stages embedded a belief system into Western psychology: if you dig deep enough into your wounds, you’ll find your parents there with a metaphorical shovel.
Indeed, Freud's theories continue to echo through the generations. A 2014 meta-analysis in The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry found that adverse parenting styles significantly increase adult anxiety and depression. According to the American Psychological Association, 76 percent of long-term therapy clients cite family issues as a core concern. Yet somewhere along our journey, a crucial truth has been sidelined: blame does not equal independence. Reflection is necessary. Understanding our past is powerful. But to stop there—to remain in the psychology of victimhood—is to give away the very fire we need to ignite our future.
The Comfort and Cost of Victimhood
Victimhood offers a seductive comfort. It says, “This isn’t your fault.” And for a time, that message brings relief to wounded souls. But as Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist, noted: when we can’t change a situation, we must change ourselves. A study in Personality and Individual Differences describes a “tendency for interpersonal victimhood”—a mindset in which anger and reactivity replace action, creating a psychological prison. When we focus too long on who hurt us, we forget what we're here to build.
Victimhood Goes Viral
And of course, it doesn’t stop at the personal level. We learn to see our world through those twisted victimhood lenses. This narrative now infects global communities, politics, racial conflicts—even national identities. A dangerous competition to show who has suffered most justifies revenge and stifles hope. The belief in a perpetual victim identity drags humanity downward—fueling unjustified wars, sustaining long-term conflict, and blinding us to the creative potential humanity holds for unity.
Therapy Culture and Dependency
Meanwhile, American therapy culture has exploded. Gallup reports that 23 percent of U.S. adults saw a mental health professional in 2022, up from just 13 percent in 2004. According to Columbia University data, the share of adults using psychotherapy alone rose from 11.5 percent in 2018 to 15.4 percent in 2021. Total mental health spending jumped from $31 billion to $51 billion in just a few years.
This booming growth has lifted stigma—but it often reinforces negative dependency. Many practices are built on weekly sessions that focus on blame, keeping people rooted in the unchangeable past. When therapy becomes a symptom rather than a solution, it replaces empowerment with passivity—and despair.
Your Soul Has a Map
There is another way—identify your life purpose, your unique mission. When a person begins to recognize and honor their reincarnated soul—a separate, coded consciousness energy that many ancient traditions believe enters through the crown of the head, known as the Vertex, into the developing fetus between the fourth and fifth month—everything changes.
That subtle energy spreads throughout the body, creating the intricate nervous system responsible for delivering messages back to the brain to support decision-making. Life no longer feels like a string of unintentional accidents or unfair suffering. It becomes a purposeful journey—a welcome teaching.
What once looked like trauma or misfortune is revealed as a navigational signal—a cosmic redirection toward growth, healing, and remembering who you truly are. It’s like a lighthouse that shines in the dark for a lost boat in a stormy ocean. Or a billiard game. You hit the cue ball, it bounces around the table—off others, missing, colliding—until, unexpectedly, it lands exactly where it was meant to go. The seeming chaos wasn’t failure. It was your soul’s guidance. Even the detours and delays carry sacred intelligence. The chaos isn’t punishment. It’s precision. And your soul already knows the way.
Transformation Is Possible
In my shamanic healing practice, I’ve witnessed transformations that border on the miraculous—addiction surrendered, depression released, anger transformed into forgiveness, sometimes in a single session.
“After one session, I feel like a subtle change has taken place, welcoming back a long-forgotten aspect of myself.”
“My reading was very powerful and caused a big shift on my path of life.”
“Wow, that was big… having a witness can allow for changes that surpass language and thought.”
“I was so happy to take part in your trauma workshop last week—it was revealing and liberating.”
“My first two sessions have changed my life—I’m now making huge breakthroughs and exploring the world anew.”
“I want to thank you for the session last week. It was insightful and helped me gain a new perspective, which has altered the way I experience my current situation as well as how I feel about the future.”
These aren’t isolated miracles. They are what happens when we shift from blame to meaning, from victimhood to vision.
The Sacred Anatomy of Fire
Igniting that inner fire isn’t a metaphor—it’s sacred. In Don Alberto Taxo’s Andean teachings, we Befriend the Elements—also within us. Legs are Earth. The pelvis is Fire. The belly is Water. The head is Air. Rooted in Pachamama, we draw strength. We raise molten energy into the pelvis to ignite Mushuk Nina—our sacred fire, our passion. That fire heats our emotions, producing steam—expression—through the neck, the crown, and into the fifth element: The Ushai, or God.
It is essential to note that this flipped order—from Air, the masculine element, down to Earth, the feminine—is not accidental. It is the result of the rise of the three monotheistic religions and their factions, all created by men. These systems placed a male figure, God, at the top of the pyramid, controlling all other essential human functions—community, food, and sex. The structure of life was inverted.
The indigenous worldview, on the other hand, is built on a pyramid whose base is Earth, whose power source is feminine, and whose reverence starts from the ground up. My hope is that we will remember to worship our mother first—Earth before Heaven, body before abstraction, roots before wings.
Unfortunately, our society runs upside-down. We try to start from the head—overthinking, repressing emotion, and bypassing the body. We shut down our senses and our fire and sever our connection to the Earth. And we wonder why so many people feel powerless, anxious, disconnected.
Hope Is a Rebellion
There is hope—faith in a positive outcome. Hope heals and motivates. Real hope is optimistic. Not passive optimism, but active creation. When one lights their fire, others remember they can too. Passion, purpose, creativity—they arise from rooted vision, not from dragging your feet in bitterness.
And because the energy of hope is contagious, healing becomes global. When you reclaim your fire, your healing ripples outward—to your family, your community, and the world. Choosing hope over blame is an act of collective medicine.
The question is no longer what they did to you—that you cannot change—but what you are going to do with it to fully align with your life’s purpose and soul’s longing and passion.
Hope is uprising. Your fire is waiting.
In Short:
– “Blame culture” and “victim psychology” are past-centered. They lead to disempowerment, depression, revenge, and violence.
– Talk therapy may reinforce co-dependency rather than foster self-empowerment.
– The soul’s journey offers a sacred map, bringing clarity and focus.
– Hope—future-centered—is a contagious force for personal and global healing and peace.
A Call to Action: Reignite Your Fire
If something stirred in you while reading this, don’t let it fade into the background of your busy mind. Act on it. Begin by asking yourself: What do I long for? What have I come here to create, serve, or heal?
Seek out teachers, mentors, and practices that help you remember who you are—not who you were told to be. Explore breathwork, bodywork, shamanic healing, or creative expression. Reconnect with nature, with ritual, with silence. Listen to your body. Let your emotions speak. Trust your inner fire.
And most importantly—surround yourself with those who nurture your hope, not your fear.
Because when you act from hope, you don’t just heal yourself. You become a lighthouse for others, guiding them back to their own purpose.
The uprising has already begun. Will you answer the call?